Scrap The NY Resolutions

Instead, get out of B.E.D and grab the O.A.R in 2023!

Setting unrealistic resolutions is often the cornerstone of historical New Year failure. Resolutions are often about what we would like to do, or what we think we should do or must do. But, they are not genuinely what we truly WANT to do.

As Tony Robbins says, “don’t should all over yourself, by using too many shoulds”.

When people find themselves thinking in terms of what “should” and “ought” to be said or done, it’s possible that a cognitive distortion is at work, according to Albert Ellis, one of the founders of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.

It’s rarely helpful to chastise yourself with what you “should” be able to do in a given situation. “Should” and “ought” statements are often used by the thinker to take on a negative view of their life.

These types of thoughts are often rooted in internalised family or cultural expectations that might not be appropriate for the individual. Listen next time you hear others tell you what you ‘should’ do. Such thoughts can diminish your self-esteem and raise anxiety levels.

Consider this for your New Year objectives, adopt a life principle instead. It will lead you to a more empowered life, the life of the victor! Not a disempowered life of the victim.

In the Business World it is known as ‘The Above Or Below the Line principle,’ for the Hinterland Times readers I’ve created an easy to remember acronym for 2023.

‘Get out of B.E.D each day, and grab the O.A.R.’ So, to give you an overview, when you literally get out of your bed, STOP the B~ Blame, E~ Excuses, D~ Denial, and instead go into the shed and grab the O~ Ownership, A~ Accountability, R~ Responsibility.

Jocko Willink, Ex Navy Seal Commander, is well known for his saying “take extreme responsibility for everything.”

This principle above firmly empowers you, making you the victor of 2023! The hero of your future, not disempowering you and making you the victim of your past.