by KERRIE FRIEND
As this unforgettable year draws to a close I’ve been thinking a lot about how we can allow envy or jealousy to ruin our life. It seems easier than ever before to do as there are so many situations that can cause us to fall into the comparison trap. Use self-control to turn those negative emotions that can wreak havoc on our souls into something that motivates and inspires instead of defeats. We have one precious life, why waste it being envious allowing those feelings of low self-esteem affect us so poorly. They never allow our best image to emerge, are toxic and leave us with an array of unhelpful emotions not good for our soul. In their place let them fuel you passionately towards inspiration, focus and motivation.
During this current day and age that’s seemingly filled with constant ‘comparisonitis’ and ‘shiny life syndrome’, we must learn to control those feelings or they will control us. Start your envy assessment by evaluating who and what you are comparing yourself to. Adjustments can then be made to keep you from going down the wrong envious roads. Use this review to choose who to follow, unfollow or delete on social media, detox your entertainment and place boundaries on those you are envious of in person or from afar. Comparisonitis is real and now more than ever we need to adjust accordingly to what or who we allow or don’t allow in our lives.
Understand that most of what we see on social media is highlight reels of people’s lives not their day-to-day life. Don’t be ensnared by everything you see as we all go through challenges. No one’s life is perfect. We do all however have perfect moments and that’s often what we see promoted on social feeds. Remember, ‘comparison is the thief of all joy’ and the best thing we can do for ourselves is to focus on enjoying and transforming our glorious life. Don’t care so much about what others are doing, the question is what are you doing?
Don’t damage your self-worth by constant comparison, rather spend time journalling about all the things you love about yourself and your life, and flourish from there. Be sure to include all of the things you enjoy and those you look forward to in the future because your life is a masterpiece. You’ll feel happier and more determined to put plans into place to make your life better. Our superpower is created not in comparison but when focused on our own image.