IMAGE by KERRIE FRIEND
It’s all too easy these days to go down the rabbit hole of social media. It’s important we put the brakes on or we could go head first over a cliff. I’m not sure but if you’re like me you’ve had to put some serious boundaries on your social media intake, especially during this unprecedented pandemic. We need to be aware that highlight reels of others’ lives are mostly just that, not the real-life that happens to all of us from day-to-day. Consider this fact when you’re scrolling around or you could get very envious, frustrated, or disappointed about your one-of-a-kind precious image and life. It’s good to remember, especially for mental health reasons, that social feeds are overall highlights of life, not all of life. Life is just not as pretty as it always seems to look on social media. I’m not saying we should put all of our most boring, unexciting photos, complaints, or negativity on our social media feeds but I am saying don’t look at others’ lives and think theirs is all rainbows and unicorns. Instead, use it mindfully as the wonderful platform it is where you can connect with loved ones, friends, blasts from the past, and new people if you choose.
No one’s life is as perfect as some would have you believe so staying aware of the tendency to compare will help your mental health, anxiety, and positivity. Don’t allow scrolling to send you down a plummeting hole of unhappiness and discontent. It’s not about comparing our lives to others, it’s far more useful to appreciate and be inspired by others’ posts, even gaining some fun ideas on how to express your life more fully. Use social media to encourage or inspire, or to be encouraged or inspired, rather than a feed of intimidation, jealousy, or envy. This is much more beneficial to you and you can then use social media platforms as motivation, not opposition.
I love social media but I’m also well aware of its negatives. I encourage you to find the balance of what works for you with it and use it for all of the good things it can be. Stay in touch with old friends, keep those you want to inform about your life, grow your business, be involved in your community, be inspired, encourage others, and use it for all of the other enjoyable things it can be. But don’t compare as it is the thief all of joy.
And finally, the average person spends about two hours every day on social media. Over a year that’s 728 hours (more than 30 days)! Imagine limiting your time on it and retrieving at least half of that time back. I went a step further and have a time block of no more than 30 minutes a day and it has literally been a life-changer for me. I hope I’ve persuaded you to evaluate your social media use and allow it to be a pleasurable addition not a cause of tension and comparison.
God bless, Kerrie